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Now in stores! Book for MEN

Mijn nieuwe boek ‘Boek voor MANNEN’ is vanaf vandaag te koop in de betere boekhandel en uiteraard op internet. Ik heb het geschreven voor iedere man die meer daadkracht, avontuur en plezier in zijn leven kan gebruiken.

Als je het verschil wilt maken in je leven en je niet wilt neerleggen bij uitstelgedrag, sleur en gepolder dan is dit het boek voor jou.

Ik raad het ook alle vrouwen aan die willen weten wat hun man beweegt. (Tip: Geef dit boek cadeau aan je man. Daar doe je jezelf ook een plezier mee!)

‘Luister niet naar je vrouw, maar naar Eelco Smit. Die heeft echt het beste met je voor,’ zegt journalist en auteur Dominique Haijtema.

‘Eelco Smit begrijpt waarom mannen ballen hebben – en dat ze daar wat mee moeten,’ aldus Patrick Kicken, DJ Radio Veronica en bewustzijn expert.

Boek voor MANNEN is speciaal geschreven voor alle mannen die hun persoonlijke ambities waar willen maken en zo het maximale uit zichzelf willen halen. Het boek biedt je de concrete inzichten en tools om bewust en succesvol je eigen leven te leiden als man.

Het eerste exemplaar van Boek voor MANNEN werd in ontvangst genomen door BNR Nieuwsradio journalist Paul van Liempt.

Koop nu bij bol.com

8 Essential Questions for Fulfilling Work

Work and love are the two factors that most profoundly influence one's sense of happiness. Consequently, the choice of a partner and the decision regarding employment or entrepreneurship are paramount if happiness is the ultimate objective in your life.

In his book Manhood, psychologist Steve Biddulph presents a model outlining eight levels of fulfilling work. He states: “These criteria are not intended for self-comparison with others. They are a reflection of individual heroism.” This questionnaire is primarily directed at men. However, these questions also provide valuable insights for women regarding the state of their work and happiness.

Below are 8 questions to assess whether your work is optimally fulfilling:

1. Are you contributing your part? Or are you merely a passenger?
2. Are you self-reliant? Or do you live at the expense of others?
3. Does your work positively contribute to the lives of others? Do you perform your work with humor and a smile?
4. Are you a provider for others? Do you produce more than you consume?
5. Does your work establish an infrastructure for the work of others? Are you an entrepreneur?
6. Do you train and develop other individuals to enhance their lives and futures? Are you a mentor?
7. Does your work aid in protecting the earth, humanity, and all life? Does your work have no detrimental effects?
8. Do you utilize your unique qualities and talents in your work to create a distinct and powerful impact on the world?

Dream jobs do not exist, but you can come quite close if you can answer enough questions affirmatively.

Could your work, in fact, contribute more significantly to your happiness?

10 Good Reasons to Hire a Coach

Individuals who engage with a coach consistently report higher levels of contentment and professional achievement compared to those who have never received coaching. The following outlines the ten primary justifications for commencing a coaching engagement.

1. A coach assists in articulating your authentic life purpose. Coaching facilitates the discovery of a profound mission and the formulation of actionable objectives.

2. A coach instills the inspiration necessary for goal actualization. Coaching cultivates the insight that genuine fulfillment stems from making deliberate choices.

3. A coach will provide the motivation necessary for sustained perseverance and resilience. Coaching serves as the essential impetus for achieving tangible results.

4. A coach provides a secure, delineated environment, enabling you to fully concentrate and focus on your individual objectives. Coaching sessions are exclusively dedicated to your aspirations, rather than external expectations.

5. A coach functions as a reflective mirror, discerning behavioral constraints that remain imperceptible to you. Coaching facilitates the removal of these impediments, thereby paving the path toward goal attainment.

6. A coach collaborates with you to formulate a strategic framework and a tangible action plan. Coaching supports your adherence to this plan, enabling the realization of your envisioned successes.

7. A coach serves as a trusted confidant, offering genuine active listening and undivided attention. Coaching provides a confidential sounding board for articulating your aspirations, uncertainties, and apprehensions, free from judgment or future repercussions.

8. All disclosures made to a coach are held in strict confidence. Coaching ensures absolute confidentiality and discretion, fostering an environment for unreserved self-expression.

9. A coach ensures accountability to your self-imposed commitments. Coaching eliminates the possibility of rationalizing the non-realization of your aspirations.

10. The coach is there to celebrate your achievements with you. Coaching provides the opportunity to genuinely celebrate successes together, an occurrence often overlooked.

Are you ready to engage a coach?

4 bewezen tips om altijd mazzel te hebben

If you don't shoot, you can't score.

Johan Cruyff

You Engineer Your Own Fortuitous Outcomes

In English, it is “luck”; in Dutch, we refer to it as “mazzel.” Experiencing “mazzel” is distinct from being happy. You intuitively grasp this. However, they are significantly interconnected. Is it necessary to have “mazzel” to meet your ideal partner, to realize your professional aspirations, to secure a fulfilling position, or to lead a happy and meaningful life? Do you require “mazzel” to be happy? If you are happy, do you frequently experience “mazzel”?

Some individuals consistently find themselves in the opportune place at the opportune moment. Are they merely fortunate, or is there another underlying factor at play?

The Scientific Elucidation of Fortuitous Outcomes

Richard Wiseman, a professor of psychology, has conducted scientific research elucidating why certain individuals navigate life with such consistent good fortune. He has developed techniques that enable individuals to enhance their propensity for fortuitous outcomes. Furthermore, he authored a book on the subject: “The Luck Factor.”

His scientific investigations into fortuitous outcomes are predicated on studies involving hundreds of exceptionally fortunate and unfortunate individuals, thereby providing deeper insights into the psychology of "mazzel."

The Four Principles of Fortuitous Outcomes

The findings from the studies on fortuitous outcomes indicate that individuals are not inherently born with "mazzel." Those who experience "mazzel" apply, often unconsciously, four fundamental principles to cultivate prosperity and fortuitous outcomes in their lives:

Principle 1: Maximize Your Opportunities

Individuals who experience "mazzel" are adept at generating, recognizing, and capitalizing on opportunities. They achieve this through various methodologies: extensive networking, adopting a relaxed disposition towards life, and consistently embracing novel experiences.

Principle 2: Heed Your Intuitions

Fortunate individuals make effective decisions by heeding their intuition and gut feelings. Furthermore, they proactively cultivate and strengthen their intuitive faculties continuously through intentional mental clearing practices such as mindfulness exercises, meditation, and other relaxation techniques.

Principle 3: Anticipate Good Fortune

Individuals who experience good fortune are convinced that they will consistently encounter favorable outcomes in the future. This expectation manifests as a self-fulfilling prophecy, enabling these individuals to persevere even when confronted with setbacks, and fostering a positive approach to interactions with others.

Principle 4: Transform Adversity into Opportunity

Fortunate individuals employ various psychological techniques to navigate adversities in their lives. For instance, they conceptualize scenarios where circumstances could have been significantly worse; they avoid dwelling excessively on major setbacks, yet also refrain from over-emphasizing significant windfalls; and they leverage negative occurrences as catalysts to reassert control over their personal trajectory.

Coaching functions as a 'good fortune' private academy

There is even a 'good fortune' school now established in England. Consequently, coaching can be conceptualized as a personalized 'good fortune' tutorial, with you serving as the instructor.

Are you prepared to cultivate a propensity for good fortune?

16 Drivers to Happiness

The quality of one's life is directly determined by the quality of one's communication.

Life fundamentally revolves around communication. Primarily, this involves self-communication, followed by communication with others. Every individual seeks to fulfill their needs to the greatest extent possible. To effectively satisfy one's needs, it is imperative to first identify what those needs are. This is achieved through introspection, or in other words, 'communicating with oneself.' This process is significantly facilitated when undertaken with a trusted friend or a competent coach.

Subsequently, one will require the assistance of others to fulfill these needs. Indeed, no individual can thrive in isolation.

Professor of Psychology and author Steven Reiss defines 16 distinct human needs. Naturally, numerous classifications of human needs exist. In my book, The Rules of the Game, I employ my own categorization of human needs.

Reiss's framework also presents an intriguing perspective. Furthermore, each classification can shed new light on which of your needs remain unfulfilled.

1) Power – the imperative to impose one's will upon others

2) Independence – the need for individuality and autonomy

3) Curiosity – the need for contemplation

4) Acceptance – the imperative for group affirmation

5) Order – the need for structured, stable, and predictable environments

6) Hoarding – the imperative to accumulate provisions and possessions

7) Honor – the imperative to adhere to the traditional values of one's group

8) Idealism – the imperative for social justice

9) Social Contact – the need for interaction with peers and like-minded individuals

10) Family – the imperative to nurture offspring

11) Status – the imperative for social standing and significance

12) Vengeance – the imperative to retaliate against an individual

13) Sex & Romance – the need for sexual intimacy and emotional affection

14) Eating – the imperative for sustenance

15) Physical Activity – The Imperative of Movement

16) Security – The Imperative of Feeling Secure

Achieving success in life and business is predicated upon recognizing, communicating, and satisfying all these needs as efficiently as possible.

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